有个男孩17~18岁家里很有钱，整天在外面和他的朋友们吃啊，喝啊，打架。
有一天他的父亲问他：“你有多少朋友”
男孩回答：“我有好多”
父亲：“那你照我说的去做，先在你的白衬衫上洒点鸡血，然后拿去找你的朋友说你杀人了，看看他们的反映”
男孩照这父亲的话做了，去找他认为最要好的朋友，找到第一个朋友。
朋友1：“你这是怎么了，一身血”
男孩：“兄弟，我杀人了，借点钱给我，让我到外面躲一躲行吗。？”
朋友1：“最近家里的手头实在是有点紧没钱，要不你去找别人问问。”
男孩失望的离开了，去找他认为第二个最好的朋友。
砰砰砰~~
朋友2透过门说：“谁啊”
男孩：“是我”
依然没有开门：“什么事啊”
男孩：“兄弟，我杀人了，借点钱给我，让我到外面躲一躲行吗。？”
朋友2和第一个朋友说的一样的话。男孩很是恼火，这个竟然连门都不开的拒绝了。
他找遍了所有的朋友都被拒绝了。
他沮丧的回到了家，向父亲说明了一切。
父亲：“你去找我这一个半的朋友，先去找我这半个朋友”
男孩很快就来到了，父亲所说的半个朋友家，
砰砰砰。。
父亲的半个朋友开门见他慌忙说：“孩子，你这是怎么了。”
男孩：“叔叔，我杀人了”
还没等男孩说借钱，“半个”朋友给了他一张200万的支票，让他出去避避风头.
男孩当时就抱这叔叔哭了起来。
那还又去找父亲的所说的“一个”朋友。
砰砰砰...
“一个”朋友开门看到他浑身是血，还没等男孩说话，一把拉进屋里。
“孩子，你这是怎么了”
“叔叔，我杀人了”
“赶紧把你的衣服脱下来”
“脱衣服干什么.?”
“我儿子和你的年龄差不多，让他穿上，我现在就打电话报警让他去顶罪，你就先在我这躲一段时间”
男孩当场就跪在地上痛苦起来。过了一会，向叔叔解释了一下。
回到家以后哭着跪在父亲说自己是个混蛋，发誓以后不会在交狐朋狗友了。
一生中只为这“一个半”朋友而奋斗。
舍得笑，得到的是友谊；
放得下，才能走得远！有所放弃，才能有所追求. 什么也不愿放弃的人，反而会失去最珍贵的东西.
得之坦然!失之淡然！
有一句很经典的话：当你紧握双手，里面什么也没有；当你打开双手，世界就在你手中。懂得放弃，才能在有限的生命里活得充实、饱满、旺盛!
舍得宽容，得到的是大气；
舍得诚实，得到的是朋友；
舍得面子，得到的是实在；
舍得酒色，得到的是健康；
舍得虚名，得到的是逍遥；
舍得施舍，得到的是美名；
舍得红尘，得到的是天尊。
舍得小，就有可能得大；
舍得近，就有可能得到远。
舍得某种精神，就有可能得到某种物质，舍得某种物质，就有可能得到某种精神。
而有些人就是为了两片薄面而争，为了一条贱命而战，一身虚荣，一身醋味，值么？累吗？
舍得舍得，有舍就有得；得失得失，有得就有失。人世间就是这么奇妙，你又何须苦苦追寻一个目标
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Friday, September 24, 2010
應寶貝要求：放上這個《女朋友，請看這裡！》
1、不要只因为你在这边受了委屈就对电话那边的他大喊大叫
2、不要挂他的电话，无论你多生气。让一个男生最气愤的是莫过于让他找不到自己的女朋友
3、请永远对着他微笑，即使此时你的心情可能也不好。你永远不会了解你的微笑会给他多大的鼓励
4、请在他受伤、失败的时候找一个僻静的地方抱一抱他，把你并不宽阔的肩膀借他靠一下，把你雪白的衣袖借他擦一下鼻涕和眼泪
5、请你认认真真地去爱他，无论你多优秀，多聪明，多漂亮，家境多好，有多少人疼你，你都只有这样一个会傻傻地爱你的他
6、请试着学会他爱的运动。你可以玩得不好，可是至少你可以对他的爱好多些了解，可以在他寂寞时陪他玩上一会儿
7、请时刻保持端庄、可爱，无论他是否看得到。因为你是他的女朋友，无论走到哪里，你都代表着他的尊严的一部分；请为了他，时刻让自己变得更优秀
8、请记得每一个对他重要的日子，即使没有办法及时送上礼物，也要打个电话或者发条短信，让他知道你记得
9、请记得每次出门前带上钱包，偶尔抢着付钱，偶尔请他吃东西。爱情应该是平等的
10、请对他的每一点进步和努力肯定和鼓励，他在落魄的时候最需要你
11、当他偶尔醉酒时好好照顾他，并做醒酒的酸梅汤给他，让他晚上睡舒服，并在床头柜上备好水，醉酒了会喝很多水
12、还有最好让他知道，当有女生向他示好，会稍微吃醋，但不要不可理喻的乱吃飞醋，有别的女生喜欢他证明他优秀
13、在喝酒前500ml牛奶，这样可以让酒精少伤害胃
14、 如果他很瘦，就想办法骗他吃有营养的东西，吃饭时碰到肉全让他解决，说自己正减肥。如果他需要减肥，就陪他吃含脂肪少但美味的东西
15、 他和朋友出去的时候，不要总是打电话不让他这样不让他那样，那样会让他很不爽，让他玩高兴
16、 当他忙的时候，让他好好安心的忙，可以帮他的就帮一些；自己忙的时候，先告诉他，让他该做什么做什么去，别让他等你等的很累
17、不要评论他的亲人的过失，毕竟你选的是他，而不是他的家人
18、不要怀疑他，永远不要
19、请不要对他说谎。如果他真的爱你，他可以原谅你所有的错误，却无法原谅你的谎言
20、爱情是两个人的事情。如果他不值得你爱，那么请放手，给你们两个人追求幸福的机会；如果他值得你爱，那么，请用心去肯定他、爱他、关怀他、等待他，等到他有一天终于变成了盖世英雄，踏着七彩云来娶你
2、不要挂他的电话，无论你多生气。让一个男生最气愤的是莫过于让他找不到自己的女朋友
3、请永远对着他微笑，即使此时你的心情可能也不好。你永远不会了解你的微笑会给他多大的鼓励
4、请在他受伤、失败的时候找一个僻静的地方抱一抱他，把你并不宽阔的肩膀借他靠一下，把你雪白的衣袖借他擦一下鼻涕和眼泪
5、请你认认真真地去爱他，无论你多优秀，多聪明，多漂亮，家境多好，有多少人疼你，你都只有这样一个会傻傻地爱你的他
6、请试着学会他爱的运动。你可以玩得不好，可是至少你可以对他的爱好多些了解，可以在他寂寞时陪他玩上一会儿
7、请时刻保持端庄、可爱，无论他是否看得到。因为你是他的女朋友，无论走到哪里，你都代表着他的尊严的一部分；请为了他，时刻让自己变得更优秀
8、请记得每一个对他重要的日子，即使没有办法及时送上礼物，也要打个电话或者发条短信，让他知道你记得
9、请记得每次出门前带上钱包，偶尔抢着付钱，偶尔请他吃东西。爱情应该是平等的
10、请对他的每一点进步和努力肯定和鼓励，他在落魄的时候最需要你
11、当他偶尔醉酒时好好照顾他，并做醒酒的酸梅汤给他，让他晚上睡舒服，并在床头柜上备好水，醉酒了会喝很多水
12、还有最好让他知道，当有女生向他示好，会稍微吃醋，但不要不可理喻的乱吃飞醋，有别的女生喜欢他证明他优秀
13、在喝酒前500ml牛奶，这样可以让酒精少伤害胃
14、 如果他很瘦，就想办法骗他吃有营养的东西，吃饭时碰到肉全让他解决，说自己正减肥。如果他需要减肥，就陪他吃含脂肪少但美味的东西
15、 他和朋友出去的时候，不要总是打电话不让他这样不让他那样，那样会让他很不爽，让他玩高兴
16、 当他忙的时候，让他好好安心的忙，可以帮他的就帮一些；自己忙的时候，先告诉他，让他该做什么做什么去，别让他等你等的很累
17、不要评论他的亲人的过失，毕竟你选的是他，而不是他的家人
18、不要怀疑他，永远不要
19、请不要对他说谎。如果他真的爱你，他可以原谅你所有的错误，却无法原谅你的谎言
20、爱情是两个人的事情。如果他不值得你爱，那么请放手，给你们两个人追求幸福的机会；如果他值得你爱，那么，请用心去肯定他、爱他、关怀他、等待他，等到他有一天终于变成了盖世英雄，踏着七彩云来娶你
Saturday, September 18, 2010
轉帖：你會這樣疼你的女朋友嗎？
1.把fb密码告诉她。
2.银行的密码告诉她。
3.冬天允许她把手放到你身体里。
4.可以让她随时翻你手 机。
5.行街时，要拉着她的手，不许放。
6.不许先挂她电话。
7.不许对她大声说话。
8.要给她介绍你所有的朋友。
9. 陪她逛街时不能说累。
10.把她的的相片放在手机屏幕上。
11.不说她傻。
12.不说她笨。
13.不伤她心。
14. 不欺负她。
15.不凶她。
16.不对她摔东西。
17.要会逗她笑。
18.会说甜言蜜语。
19.要说到做到。
20. 有事随叫随到。
21.允许她掏你口袋。
22.要鼓励她打扮。
23.不许说她丑。
24.不许说她胖。
25.陪她看 电视。
26.不许嫌她手艺不好（再难吃也要夸好）。
27.大节小节都要送礼物给她（不在乎礼物的贵贱）。
28.无论她什么时候 饿，都要陪她吃饭。
29.吵架一定是你先道歉。
30.每年去不同的地方（没钱就去不同的公园）。
31.发现美女时，不许斜眼。
32.她撒娇的时候你要配合。
33.要陪她一起疯。
34.行街累 了，就背她。
35.要学会做饭给她吃。
36.每天要打电话给她。
37.她打电来时一定要接。
38.不叫她做不愿意的 事。
39.她煮饭时，要陪她一起。
40.答应她的事不能讨价还价。
41.有快乐时要和她一起分享。
42.有痛苦时要和 她一起分担。
43.为她，做个大男人。
44.不许和前女朋友联系。
45.她生病时要监督她吃药。
46.为她洗脚。
47.要陪她散步。
48.要相信她。
49.不许拿她和前女友比较。
50.不许骗她。
51.不许说她声音难听。
52.不许酒后發飈。
53.不可以打她。
54.抱她在怀里。
55.收到她短信马上回。
56.要学会自己检讨。
57. 最好不要抽烟、喝酒。
58.在她失落时，你要安慰她。
59.她哭时，你要把她紧紧地抱着。
60.要给她暖被窝。
61.给她梳头发。
62.不许说她抹指甲油。
63.她生日时，必须第一个时间给她浪漫和惊喜。
64.在你朋友面前给足面子她。
65. 散步时要走在她的左侧。
67.无论一起多久都要保持新鲜。
68.要接受她的过去。
69.晚上要抱着她睡。
70.在她睡醒 时，给她一个吻。
71.不能对任何一个人都比她好。
72.危险的事不能让她做。
73.下雨时，要为她打伞。
74.夏天时 给她擦汗。
75.陪她一起运动。
76.行街时要为她拿东西。
77.不给她吃一些对她身体不好的东西。
78.记得她的爱 好。
79.乘车时要抱着她。
80.去的时候记得带她。
81.她去别的地方时，你要记得随时打电话给她，让她小心。
82. 要接她上课下课（上、下班）。
83.晚上不要把手机给关了。
84.她喜欢什么就给买什么。
85.把她照顾好，不让她生病。
86. 为她修指甲。
87.她在身边时不能接女的电话。
88.每天都吻她几次。
89.要让她做最幸福的女人。
90.不把别人气发在她身上。
91.上网时，第 一时间看她在不在。
92.不和别人的女仔有关系。
93.不做对不起她的事。
94.要给她安全感。
95.每隔一段时间就买 一束花给她。
96.把她的号码放在第一位。
97.过马路时一定要把她牵紧。
98.她不舒服时要陪在她身边。
99.对她要 一心一意。
2.银行的密码告诉她。
3.冬天允许她把手放到你身体里。
4.可以让她随时翻你手 机。
5.行街时，要拉着她的手，不许放。
6.不许先挂她电话。
7.不许对她大声说话。
8.要给她介绍你所有的朋友。
9. 陪她逛街时不能说累。
10.把她的的相片放在手机屏幕上。
11.不说她傻。
12.不说她笨。
13.不伤她心。
14. 不欺负她。
15.不凶她。
16.不对她摔东西。
17.要会逗她笑。
18.会说甜言蜜语。
19.要说到做到。
20. 有事随叫随到。
21.允许她掏你口袋。
22.要鼓励她打扮。
23.不许说她丑。
24.不许说她胖。
25.陪她看 电视。
26.不许嫌她手艺不好（再难吃也要夸好）。
27.大节小节都要送礼物给她（不在乎礼物的贵贱）。
28.无论她什么时候 饿，都要陪她吃饭。
29.吵架一定是你先道歉。
30.每年去不同的地方（没钱就去不同的公园）。
31.发现美女时，不许斜眼。
32.她撒娇的时候你要配合。
33.要陪她一起疯。
34.行街累 了，就背她。
35.要学会做饭给她吃。
36.每天要打电话给她。
37.她打电来时一定要接。
38.不叫她做不愿意的 事。
39.她煮饭时，要陪她一起。
40.答应她的事不能讨价还价。
41.有快乐时要和她一起分享。
42.有痛苦时要和 她一起分担。
43.为她，做个大男人。
44.不许和前女朋友联系。
45.她生病时要监督她吃药。
46.为她洗脚。
47.要陪她散步。
48.要相信她。
49.不许拿她和前女友比较。
50.不许骗她。
51.不许说她声音难听。
52.不许酒后發飈。
53.不可以打她。
54.抱她在怀里。
55.收到她短信马上回。
56.要学会自己检讨。
57. 最好不要抽烟、喝酒。
58.在她失落时，你要安慰她。
59.她哭时，你要把她紧紧地抱着。
60.要给她暖被窝。
61.给她梳头发。
62.不许说她抹指甲油。
63.她生日时，必须第一个时间给她浪漫和惊喜。
64.在你朋友面前给足面子她。
65. 散步时要走在她的左侧。
67.无论一起多久都要保持新鲜。
68.要接受她的过去。
69.晚上要抱着她睡。
70.在她睡醒 时，给她一个吻。
71.不能对任何一个人都比她好。
72.危险的事不能让她做。
73.下雨时，要为她打伞。
74.夏天时 给她擦汗。
75.陪她一起运动。
76.行街时要为她拿东西。
77.不给她吃一些对她身体不好的东西。
78.记得她的爱 好。
79.乘车时要抱着她。
80.去的时候记得带她。
81.她去别的地方时，你要记得随时打电话给她，让她小心。
82. 要接她上课下课（上、下班）。
83.晚上不要把手机给关了。
84.她喜欢什么就给买什么。
85.把她照顾好，不让她生病。
86. 为她修指甲。
87.她在身边时不能接女的电话。
88.每天都吻她几次。
89.要让她做最幸福的女人。
90.不把别人气发在她身上。
91.上网时，第 一时间看她在不在。
92.不和别人的女仔有关系。
93.不做对不起她的事。
94.要给她安全感。
95.每隔一段时间就买 一束花给她。
96.把她的号码放在第一位。
97.过马路时一定要把她牵紧。
98.她不舒服时要陪在她身边。
99.对她要 一心一意。
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Marriage
This is a story...
wanna share with u all..if u're in a relationship, married of none, read this.
U will know why at the end.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.
byMatthew 19:6
wanna share with u all..if u're in a relationship, married of none, read this.
U will know why at the end.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.
byMatthew 19:6
Saturday, September 11, 2010
突然，很有感覺
我記得很久很久很久以前，我曾經提過網絡的世界很小，是真的很小沒錯啦
尤其是FB裡頭，現在它大概也已經取代了部落格的角色了T.T應該是這樣
時間總是很匆忙，套句話“Tim3 Fli3s fAst iN BusY DaiLy Time”
2010年感覺上就像要邁入尾聲了，考試班的同學在這次放假以後，應該也要開始預考了吧？
我剛剛又不知從哪兒打聽到，學長團在忙歡送會的事，哈哈，幾快速~ 一切回憶又到了從前，一下子我又回到了屬於我的歡送會，歷歷在目，不曉得，我已經跟大家脫節了多少，不過至少我還知道，要懂得放下。
最近，我愛上了一句話：“人生中，每一次的經驗都是前進的基石；生命里，每一次的成敗都是未來的借鏡”……這句話，是我最敬重的星雲大師寫的，摘自《佛光菜根譚》裡頭~挺有意思的
我歷經萬次的失敗，才獲得成功，我應該感激
因為在失敗中，我得到的是寶貴的經驗還有教訓，就代表我離成功又邁進一步~是很開心的事^^
拿了著一個學期的成績，還好吧……都及格，其實是不是我對自己的要求太低？媽媽說我考得很差，我怪傷心的！
Anyway,我會在努力！
本來剛剛是很有感覺要寫出一篇像樣的東西，但是，一開始打的時候，就沒了
我應該是變得不擅長用文字表達自己了
怎麼辦？？
尤其是FB裡頭，現在它大概也已經取代了部落格的角色了T.T應該是這樣
時間總是很匆忙，套句話“Tim3 Fli3s fAst iN BusY DaiLy Time”
2010年感覺上就像要邁入尾聲了，考試班的同學在這次放假以後，應該也要開始預考了吧？
我剛剛又不知從哪兒打聽到，學長團在忙歡送會的事，哈哈，幾快速~ 一切回憶又到了從前，一下子我又回到了屬於我的歡送會，歷歷在目，不曉得，我已經跟大家脫節了多少，不過至少我還知道，要懂得放下。
最近，我愛上了一句話：“人生中，每一次的經驗都是前進的基石；生命里，每一次的成敗都是未來的借鏡”……這句話，是我最敬重的星雲大師寫的，摘自《佛光菜根譚》裡頭~挺有意思的
我歷經萬次的失敗，才獲得成功，我應該感激
因為在失敗中，我得到的是寶貴的經驗還有教訓，就代表我離成功又邁進一步~是很開心的事^^
拿了著一個學期的成績，還好吧……都及格，其實是不是我對自己的要求太低？媽媽說我考得很差，我怪傷心的！
Anyway,我會在努力！
本來剛剛是很有感覺要寫出一篇像樣的東西，但是，一開始打的時候，就沒了
我應該是變得不擅長用文字表達自己了
怎麼辦？？
Thursday, September 2, 2010
心❤如果生病了，有得醫嗎？
看來我是可有可無的，下次一定記住*有事*才找你
*沒事*最好
胡亂來寫一通，本來鬆懈聊的心情突然>>>緊繃<<<<起來！
總覺得每次很委屈自己，剛開始，並不會有這樣的感覺，只是到後來才發現，我在乎的東西真的很多，結果最後就什麽也放不下，一直到現在就覺得，委屈了自己，因為自己總是跟自己過不去，好像在跟自己打架一樣。
我其實生活方式很簡單，思想很簡單，別人對我好，我相對對他也好；反之，別人對我不好，我不會雙倍奉還，但是不至於假裝我對你很好。不管怎樣，往往被忽略的，就是我的感受，之所以會如此，是因為太過於在意別人怎麼看我，最後就什麽事情也不敢說，什麽話就永遠、永遠在心裡頭，“落地生根”咯~
我的心，已經有很多補丁，哪天補也補不了的時候，就是說再見的時候。（怎麼寫這話，有心酸的感覺？不知道、不明瞭）
*沒事*最好
胡亂來寫一通，本來鬆懈聊的心情突然>>>緊繃<<<<起來！
總覺得每次很委屈自己，剛開始，並不會有這樣的感覺，只是到後來才發現，我在乎的東西真的很多，結果最後就什麽也放不下，一直到現在就覺得，委屈了自己，因為自己總是跟自己過不去，好像在跟自己打架一樣。
我其實生活方式很簡單，思想很簡單，別人對我好，我相對對他也好；反之，別人對我不好，我不會雙倍奉還，但是不至於假裝我對你很好。不管怎樣，往往被忽略的，就是我的感受，之所以會如此，是因為太過於在意別人怎麼看我，最後就什麽事情也不敢說，什麽話就永遠、永遠在心裡頭，“落地生根”咯~
我的心，已經有很多補丁，哪天補也補不了的時候，就是說再見的時候。（怎麼寫這話，有心酸的感覺？不知道、不明瞭）
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